Worksheet: From Wishing to Doing - A Grounded Path to Change

Introduction:

Manifestation and the Law of Attraction can be appealing concepts. They offer a sense of hope and the promise of easy transformation. But for many of us, especially those with neurodivergent brains or trauma histories, relying solely on "positive vibes" can set us up for disappointment and self-blame. This worksheet will help you translate your desires into concrete actions, creating a path toward real, lasting change.

Part 1: Reality Check

1. Identify a goal you've been trying to "manifest." What have you been hoping to attract or achieve through positive thinking or visualization?

2. Reflect on your experience. Has focusing on manifestation brought you closer to your goal? Has it led to any frustration, self-doubt, or feelings of inadequacy?

3. Challenge the "magic" thinking. What are some of the practical steps involved in achieving this goal? What actions are within your control?

Part 2: Breaking it Down

1. Define your goal clearly. Be specific about what you want to achieve. Instead of "I want to be happy," try "I want to reduce my anxiety so I can feel more comfortable in social situations."

2. Chunk it down. Break your goal into smaller, more manageable steps. If your goal is to reduce social anxiety, smaller steps might be:

   • Practice relaxation techniques daily.

   • Identify one social situation to try each week.

   • Prepare conversation starters or topics beforehand.

   • Reward yourself for each step you take.

3. Action plan. For each small step, identify concrete actions you can take. For example:

   • Research and practice deep breathing exercises.

   • Join an online support group for people with social anxiety.

   • Write down a list of potential conversation topics.

   • Plan a small reward, like a relaxing bath or a favorite treat.

4. Timeline and Accountability. Set realistic deadlines for each step. Consider sharing your plan with a supportive friend or therapist to increase accountability.

Part 3: Embracing the Journey

1. Focus on effort, not perfection. Acknowledge that setbacks are a normal part of the process. Don't let them derail you.

2. Celebrate small wins. Recognize and appreciate each step you take, no matter how small.

3. Practice self-compassion. Be kind to yourself throughout the process. Remember that change takes time and effort.

4. Seek support. Connect with others who understand your challenges. A therapist, support group, or trusted friend can offer encouragement and guidance.

Conclusion:

Remember, you are not solely responsible for "manifesting" your reality. You have the power to take action, build skills, and create positive change in your life. Focus on what you can control, celebrate your progress, and be kind to yourself along the way.